1.4 million women and 700,000 men, suffered domestic violence last year, ONS.
“It reveals a link between poverty and domestic abuse, with women living in the poorest households more than three times more likely to be victims of domestic abuse, than those in higher income families”.
WELL ……….. what about those women in higher income families, what about those business women or women from affluent areas of society, who choose not to report for various reasons.
Under reporting distorts the above figures immensely. The main reason given by those who told someone but did not go to the police were, they were too embarrassed, they did not want to face more humiliation, or they believed that the police could not help. Most of the victims who did not tell anyone said it was because they were too embarrassed about how they would be perceived.
Women become trapped in abusive relationships for fear of losing:
- Failure/Sign of weakness
- Not knowing their rights
Well for anyone buying the above, it’s time to wake up. As anyone who has ever known a victim of domestic abuse whether that is physical or more importantly mental abuse, will testify; such women are often brave, confident, successful women who are extremely capable of putting on a ‘face’ to the outside world and pretending nothing is wrong. Often (coercive control is the first signs of domestic violence) it is also part of the abuse behind the scenes, it can also paralyse a woman into staying with her partner for years
Leaving an abusive relationship is the time a woman or her children are most likely to be seriously harmed or even murdered by their partners.
According to statistics, most women will, on average, attempt to leave an abusive between five and seven times before permanently doing so.
Colleagues at work or friends cannot resonate with your experience, as they have not been victims of abuse.
What happens next is it becomes so stressful you develop physical and psychological symptoms….
Which you try to ignore:
Human beings are very good at putting on masks and portraying to the outside world that everything is ok!! However long term our bodies are unable to cope with long term stress and start alerting us with warning signs, which we often choose to ignore.
“My message to business women out there who are struggling, is to seek support. No one can understand your situation if they are not professionals, they can’t offer you a safe way to leave. Without outside help, there’s no way you can turn the tide around in your favour and improve your situation. It’s very hard for those in a relationship to continue this struggle on their own, so whether you decide to leave or not, obtain professional help or phone a support group. That way you don’t feel isolated.