What are the five love pots?
What is your primary love language?
When we understand this we fully understand how to be present in a relationship.
1. Quality time
3. Words of affirmation
5. Acts of service
If your partners primary love language is acts of service and yours is touch, then you will be constantly trying to please him with touch. You may try to hold his hand or give him a pack on the cheek as this is how you wish to be treated.
However, if his primary love language is acts of service then his love tank will be filled when you prepare him a meal or do the ironing, he will feel he is meeting your needs by mowing the lawn or doing DIY.
Understanding the five love languages and learning to speak the primary love language of your spouse may radically affect his or hr behaviour. People behave differently when their love tanks are full.
From the book: Love languages Chapman