I have just been told by a friend about a new organisation called Aspire You.
The friend who did her best to help me through some of the most painful years of my life.
In 1997 I decided to end my 14 year marriage, causing immense pain to my children, myself and if I can bear to include him….. my ex-husband.
Suddenly I found myself very much alone in the same world which had now become unrecognisable. My ex-husbands family and certain friends became very hostile, offering little or no support. The hurt, especially in my children was unbearable and my self-esteem had plummeted.
Meanwhile I now had only my income to rely on and realised very quickly that I needed to increase my salary as much as I could.
Looking back, I somehow found the grit and determination to even turn up to work. Losing time was not an option in the industry I had chosen, especially in the very male dominated company I had been with for 25 years. Improving my status at work was my main focus at that time and I know that Aspire would have understood and been able to support me with all I was juggling.
During the divorce period, I became very withdrawn in my private life. All the energy and time to engage in leisure activities had all but disappeared. My children were my main priority.
I began to feel that I didn’t really matter anymore. My needs were ignored, mainly by myself, somehow the person I was, had disappeared. Friends started to drift away, I didn’t have time for them and I recognise now I didn’t have time for me either.
It seems to me having read about Aspire You they would have helped to support me professionally, helped me become part of a community, given me access to professionals who really understood what I was facing.
Maybe I may have even made a few new friends on the way some like-minded ladies who had experienced or were experiencing my journey. Looking back, it makes me sad to remember how lonely it was during those years.
I hope that other women just starting out on this perilous journey will contact Aspire You to gain the support they deserve, you owe it to yourselves to not tread the journey alone.